With the school year approaching, I hear conversations about new relationships with teachers, classmates, and college roommates. Often, the continuum of How Well We Get Along involves the phenomenon of Clicking, expressed in points of Quite, as in: we clicked quite well or we didn’t quite click.
I understand Clicking – it toggles on or off, we either connect or we don’t. But, what is this “quite?” I turned to my friends Merriam and Webster and found that “quite” means “entirely or completely; exactly or precisely; to a very noticeable degree or extent.” It’s also “often used as an intensifier.”
So, taking a little grammatical license, a Point of Quite marks an access point or place of resonance where we discover similarity and coherence with another person. Subtle or obvious, it’s precision and completeness adds intensity to the connection so that we take notice and wish to know more. It draws us into relationship.
This happens between two people. But it also happens with oneself as we explore our inner life and find Points of Quite, precise places where we feel whole, unique and vital – our passions, our quirks, our gifts, our bliss. Indeed, the better we know our own Points of Quite, the easier we may Click with others.
That is, once we honor and accept ourselves – all that we are, just as we are – we more easily accept others as they are. We make the move from passion to compassion.
All journeys are inward journeys. All forgiveness is self-forgiveness.
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The enormous breakthrough is that when you honor and accept the divine image within yourself, you cannot help but see it in everybody else, too, and you know it is just as undeserved and unmerited as it is in you. That is why you stop judging, and that is how you start loving unconditionally and without asking whether someone is worthy or not. Richard Rohr
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In her review of Richard Rohr’s “Breathing Underwater,” Diane Scholten offers her surprise at Rohr’s insights (read review)
So, taking a little grammatical license, a Point of Quite marks an access point or place of resonance where we discover similarity and coherence with another person. Subtle or obvious, it’s precision and completeness adds intensity to the connection so that we take notice and wish to know more. It draws us into relationship.
This happens between two people. But it also happens with oneself as we explore our inner life and find Points of Quite, precise places where we feel whole, unique and vital – our passions, our quirks, our gifts, our bliss. Indeed, the better we know our own Points of Quite, the easier we may Click with others.
That is, once we honor and accept ourselves – all that we are, just as we are – we more easily accept others as they are. We make the move from passion to compassion.
All journeys are inward journeys. All forgiveness is self-forgiveness.
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The enormous breakthrough is that when you honor and accept the divine image within yourself, you cannot help but see it in everybody else, too, and you know it is just as undeserved and unmerited as it is in you. That is why you stop judging, and that is how you start loving unconditionally and without asking whether someone is worthy or not. Richard Rohr
Web
In her review of Richard Rohr’s “Breathing Underwater,” Diane Scholten offers her surprise at Rohr’s insights (read review)
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