How shall I respond?
So, I choose to believe in people and trust.
I choose to believe that people show up to work every morning wanting to do a good job and that they offer their best effort given the day’s concerns. I believe that people want to be happy and want to support those they love. I trust that people act in accordance with their deepest values and beliefs.
While I may not agree with what I observe, I take my cue from Cynthia Wigglesworth (SQ21) and ask: what would it take for me to do the same behavior? Given the same biology, culture, and background, would I not do the same thing? And then, what is the noblest thing to do in this situation?
Believing in people and trusting comes from getting to know people. While we cannot know everyone, we know family, friends, and colleagues. Taking steps to know them better, we learn how to trust and build resilience within our workplaces and homes.
Admittedly, this is as much aspirational as it is actual. And it will always be aspirational. Because today, I once again will face that high stakes question: how shall I respond?
The more you know about another person’s journey, the less possible it is for you to dislike them or distrust them. Parker Palmer
Here is a brief video of Parker Palmer on the value of trust at home and in the workplace (watch now)