I realize that “no” is not often considered an affirmative statement. As kind and generous folks, we usually want to say “yes” when asked to help or assist in any way. Indeed, “yes” seems to leap from our mouths before we fully consider the request. It’s our default response. It feels like we’re being helpful.
So, like a thoughtful “yes,” a well considered “no” is a strong affirmation. It affirms our family, our friends, our work, our health and everything else that fills our minds and calendars.
Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment. Lao-Tzu
Maintaining healthy personal boundaries serves our needs and also protects those to whom we’ve made commitments. Here’s a brief article on how to set and maintain these boundaries (read article).