It’s the self-slam.
“I’m so stupid.”
“I’m not that nice of person.”
“I’m just a dweeb.”
And the list goes on.
What’s your favorite self-slam?
In his article, Stop the Violence Within, Will Donnelly reminds us that we cannot be free and happy while engaging in this “insidious self abuse.” He examines his internal voice – which has become subtler over time – and finds that it brings out his harsh judgmental side.
“It all boils down to this: I am simply being mentally violent, and violence is never, ever good.”
What to do? Donnelly suggests that yoga helps increase our self-awareness and control of this inner violent voice. Others suggest encouraging forgiveness by reminding ourselves of our positive qualities and contributions.
What do you do to silence or counteract your self-slams…your verbal violence?
You may not be able to stop the self-slam from coming to mind, but you can stop yourself from saying it and guide yourself ”in the direction of kindness, or non violence…to decide to make love your prime directive.”
Once exposed, a secret loses all its power. Anne Aguirre
Here is Donnelly’s post on Stop the Violence Within.